Perfectionism

Sarah Black

Sarah Black

Perfectionism

 
Perfectionism is considered a personality trait and is not considered a personality disorder of its own .
 
Perfectionism can be caused by a fear of judgment or disapproval from others. Early childhood experiences, such as having parents with unrealistically high expectations, may also play a role. Mental health conditions such as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) may also tend to exhibit perfectionist tendencies.
 
Obsessive-compulsive personality disorder (OCPD) is a personality disorder that’s characterized by extreme perfectionism, order, and neatness. People with OCPD will also feel a severe need to impose their own standards on their outside environment.
 
This indicated that perfectionism is determined more by nature than nurture and can be attributed to a person’s parents. “We found there is a strong genetic component to perfectionism and the association between perfectionism and anxiety,” Dr Jason Moser, who led the study, found there is a strong genetic component to perfectionism and the association between perfectionism and anxiety,”
“There is also a significant contribution from the unique environment of the individual outside the home. But didn’t find evidence that the shared home environment had much to do with perfectionism,” Moser said.
The study showed that a lack of perfectionism – being slapdash or impulsive – also has a strong genetic component.
 
Origins of perfectionism
 
Perfectionistic traits often arise from psychological wounds of childhood. Children who experience emotional trauma, especially the withholding of love from a parent, come to believe that they must prove their worth.
 
Normal perfectionists – set high standards for themselves but drop their standards if the situation requires it. Neurotic perfectionists – never feel that they have done their job well enough. They are very intolerant of mistakes and extremely self-critical.
Toxic perfectionists
 
What makes extreme perfectionism so toxic is that while those in its grip desire success, they are most focused on avoiding failure, resulting in a negative orientation. They don’t believe in unconditional love, expecting others’ affection and approval to be dependent on a flawless performance
 
Does it hold you back?
 
It creates a constant feeling of never being good enough, due to holding yourself to impossible standards & assuming that others do too. Seeing as perfection is impossible, this then leads to intense feelings of anxiety, stress, unworthiness, and general unhappiness.
 
How do you see the positive side and go forward without perfectionism
 
Accept the idea that striving to do your very best is good enough and will eventually lead you down a brilliant path. If you have a perfectionist streak in you, try and let it go, and embrace the process of getting your idea out into the world, rather than focusing on the end result.
 
Perfectionism is a double-edged sword. On one hand, it can motivate you to perform at a high level and deliver top-quality work. On the other hand, it can cause you unnecessary anxiety and slow you down.
 
Perfectionism is a thief.
Perfectionism—refusing to stand for anything short of perfection–steals all of the following from you:
  • It steals your joy.
  • It steals your self-confidence.
  • It steals your ability to get things done.
  • It steals your passion.
  • It steals your self-acceptance.
  • It steals your ability to grow.
 
 
How can you harness the positives of your perfectionism while mitigating the negatives?
 
Top tips
 
1. Recognize Perfectionism
 
2. Learn How to Take Criticism
 
3. Recognize the Difference Between Healthy Striving and Perfectionism
 
4. Set Realistic Goals.
 
5. Identify the “Must-Haves” and the “Nice-to-Haves”.
 
6. Lower Your Standards.
 
7. Try New Things.
 
8. Move Away from Anything that Reinforces Your Perfectionist Tendencies
 
9. Accept that You’ll Never Be Finished
 
10. Enjoy the Ride.

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