Sarah Black

Sarah Black


We all know that reflection of light is when a light wave hits a surface which does not absorb the energy so it bounces back. 


What about reflection in: 

Learning, in other words in life? 

To write about reflection, this can be in 3 different ways: 

Your feedback on what you did, how you did and your experiences 

Professional reflection – writing about someone’s behaviour, (appraisal) 

Personal reflection – which is about your thoughts and feelings about a personal subject. 

Reflection is important, I think it is vital. 

I feel you cannot move forward unless you look back and make a conscious decision on your thoughts, feelings, your experience, and whether all of these factors could be improved next time around. 

This is known as Self Reflection 

Reflecting helps you to develop your skills and evaluate their effectiveness, rather than just carry on doing things as you have always done them.  

It is about questioning, in a positive way. 

Reflection is a process of exploring and analysing ourselves. 

Our perspectives, attributes, experiences and actions and reactions. 

 It helps us gain insight and see how to move forward. Its power lies in being able to help you develop your understanding. 

How does reflection help you grow? 

As a person: Reflecting on your actions and attitudes is one of the most effective ways to identify areas where you need to change, recognise places where you’ve grown and keep you moving forward to achieve your personal growth goals. 

But where do you start? Some of us, just don’t know where to start when assessing our daily life and actions, maybe you don’t know how to figure out your real goals in life, and possibly you don’t know how to tell if those things are working or not. You may even feel a little overwhelmed just starting to think about it. 

Most people don’t really have a technique to reflect over their lives. In fact experiments prove that when we are given a scary scenario without a possible solution we tend to procrastinate and effectively ignore the problem.  

Try this: 

Take five minutes out to reflect on your day.  Use “positive ratio” this means for every 1 negative thought or action, balance it with 3 positive thoughts or actions.  Studies have shown that people perform at their best level whenever they are able to achieve that 3-1 positivity ratio in their daily lives. 

What about in Business? 

Do you think about that failure often? “Hindsight’s 20-20,” the saying goes—with hindsight, you’re in a better position to understand what lessons can be learned from past mistakes.  But a Harvard study in 2014 showed that it’s not just the experiences that we learn from—it’s the actual reflection over the past experiences that enables us to take a lesson away from them.  When you take the time to reflect on your mistakes, it enables you to turn that success into failure, lets sum it up with three main points: as you reflect and learn from your past experiences you are able to:  

1) confirm that you are pushing hard enough,  

2) confirm the areas that still need improvement,  

3) share your learning with your team. 

Take some time now to ask yourself a few questions:  

What motivates you? What is the driving force that wakes you up each morning and gets you through the day? What pushes you to start a project. 

Where do you look for and find your personal inspiration? Who are the true thought leaders, writers or even just average people that you admire 

What are your biggest fears? Why are you afraid of those things? What steps can you start to take now to overcome those fears? 

What is important to you? Is it money? Creativity? Feeling like you’re helping others? There’s not a right or wrong answer; every person is different. 

What excites you the most about your life? Is it your family, friends, and building relationships? Is it your job? Is it travel? And don’t just say “travel” or “work” or “friends” – what is it about that thing that specifically excites you, and why? 

What inspires you? 

Answer those questions honestly; be completely real with yourself. And when you know the answers to them, it is time to… 

 Assess your life and see if the things that you do every day are contributing to the things that are important to you. 

If your daily life is not adding to your overall success, then ask yourself what’s holding you back.  

Limiting beliefs usually take the form of small, insignificant statements that slip into our everyday speech, but with repetition they can become part of the identity that we create for ourselves, holding us back from achieving our goals and dreams. 

For example, many people have an inherent, ever-repeated belief that they “cannot sing,” which may then hold back from ever taking singing lessons and exploring the possibility that they could learn to sing. “I’m lazy,” “I’m not good with technology,” “I talk too much,” “I’m too shy” –– all of these are examples of limiting beliefs. Don’t let yourself fall prey to limiting beliefs, but instead challenge them and create new beliefs for yourself. 

Now Bring it All Together: Past, Present, Future 

But reflecting on the past is not the same as obsessing about the past. Don’t get caught up in beating yourself up over mistakes that you’ve made; thinking about our past is only good for us when we’re able to learn lessons from it, and then either continue doing what works well, or move on and get over our mistakes in the past. 

Reflecting should turn into a good habit that you can incorporate into your daily and business life, as you become more conscious, mindful, and aware of each of your actions and thoughts and how they will affect your future successes. 

Find a balance between the positive and negative thoughts within your self-reflection. 

Take this positivity and increase the number of positive connections in your life. 

Quote from a writer Job Gordon 

“We need to engage each other with more smiles, kind words, encouragement, gratitude, meaningful conversations, honest dialogues and sincere positive interactions. And to foster these actions we need to create personal and team rituals that help us interact more positively. If we make them part of our organizational process and individual habits they are more likely to happen.”  

With all this knowledge you have now gathered you can 

Move Forward: Setting Clearly Defined Goals  – Next Sofa Session 

“Are the habits you have today on par with the dreams you have for tomorrow?” 


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