Perfectionism  Perfectionism is considered a personality trait and is not considered a personality disorder of its own .  Perfectionism can be caused by a fear of judgment or disapproval from others. Early childhood experiences, such as having parents with unrealistically high expectations, may also play a role. Mental health conditions such as obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD) […]


PrincipleStanding back decreases emotion and increases logic. How it works Have you ever been in a conversation where the other person said something like ‘Let’s look at this in another way, or “there’s always more than one way to skin a cat”. If you stand back and look at the problem objectively, it seems less important.’ ? […]

Organised vs Disorganised

There could be many reasons you’re so disorganized  There are many reasons for disorganization including perfectionism, lack of skills, our beliefs and indecision, as well as mental health and brain-related conditions. When we understand the reason, it can help increase our ability to become more organized (and stay that way!).    Signs of a disorganized person  […]

Why Listening is a Skill

Why Listening is a Skill Hearing and listening are not the same. You hear music, the sound of rainfall, or the sound of food being prepared in the kitchen. Listening, on the other hand, requires attention, comprehension of the message that’s being relayed, and recollection of what’s been said.  Effective listeners not only show interest, […]


With Christmas/thanksgiving, we’ll all soon be taking time to recognise what we’re grateful for. It’s a nice gesture, of course, but why do we do it? What is good gratitude?  You can grow gratitude, by keeping a “gratitude journal” in which you regularly record the things for which you are grateful.   Gratitude journals and other […]


Reflection  We all know that reflection of light is when a light wave hits a surface which does not absorb the energy so it bounces back.  BUT  What about reflection in:  Learning, in other words in life?  To write about reflection, this can be in 3 different ways:  Your feedback on what you did, how […]


Value  What is considered a value?  Values are individual attitudes that motivate people to act one way or another.   They serve as a guide for human behaviour. … Some values have fundamental worth, such as love, truth, and freedom. Other values, such as ambition, responsibility, and courage, describe traits or behaviours that are influential as means […]


Fear  We all know what fear is: it’s an emotion one that brings anxiety ties up our belly makes our heart race can even make us feel so quite sick.   It is the most basic human emotion, programmed into our nervous system and works like an instinct. From the day we are born we are […]


Purpose  Why do I do what I do? and What is it all for?  Firstly, I wanted to justify the meaning of “Purpose” so I did a bit of research and came up the conclusion that “Purpose” is a reason for making an action, creating a cause with an intension, aim and plan.  That lead […]

Goals and Small Steps

Difficult conversation   Sometimes, difficult conversations are necessary. You might need to clear the air or confront a problem directly. When you’re not prepared, you might say something our of anger that you don’t really mean. Taking things personally or losing our temper are typical problems that make a simple conversation harder than it needs to […]